FETISH:
I once was interviewed on tv by a psychologist for an educational sex show. The shrink asked me my definition of fetishism and so, I told her that a fetish is a sexual arousal for an object like it is for me with latex clothes. She asked me then if I absolutely need to wear latex every time I want to have sex and I answered no. So she declared that I was not a real fetishist, because according to her studies, real fetishists absolutely need their fetish to be sexually aroused. Well that’s maybe how doctors describe fetishism from the books they’ve read but in today’s reality, it’s bullshit to only use the word fetish to describe a pathologist sexual deviance! From what I have witnessed in the scene, fetishism is used positively by a vast number of people to spice up their sex life, explore new sensations, and to find new ways to seduce and keep the passion alive between partners. For me, wearing latex when I have sex is a bonus, a cherry on the cake. If you eat cake every day, it looses its funky flavor and then you get sick of it. Bottom line, nowadays a fetish can actually be a positive thing, and not necessarily a disease!

BDSM:
Lots of people mix up fetish with BDSM probably because we often see BDSM players wearing fetish clothes. But BDSM does not mean Fetish, and vice-versa Those letters stands for Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism. To play, one has to be dominant, and the other submissive. BDSM games starts with mind play and can be followed by physical ones where most probably the dom will use various methods to “punish” his sub, releasing endorphins which are responsible for physical sensations and pleasure. Mind games can be as cute as asking a sub to hold for you a glass of wine. As for physical games, at fetish events, I see often people getting spanked, whipped or tied up. Now, I’m sure some of you think about these games “a la” Hellraiser with flows of blood everywhere. But believe me, limits are clearly talked about between the dom and the sub before any game begins and players are expected to respects them. Personally, I have played more often as a sub;. it’s nice to just let go on responsibilities for a while and be taken care of. I admit tough that I am not very obebient. If I feel like it, I can switch and be a dom. I have experimented lots of physical games like wax, needles and my favorite of all, electric shocks (like a violet wand, not my finger in the wall outlet, you silly!) But that’s another story...

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