THE APPROACH :

Most of you out there [guys who emailed me and visit this site] love latex since a long time already. Unfortunately, you love it in secret. Latex has become essential to your lifestyle, or if it isn't, you are deceived by having to put your fetish aside in order to live a more "normal life". You ask yourself how you could interest your loved one to latex. Let me tell you, in all honesty, that the task will not be easy and that you will have to be very very understanding.

To start with, it is almost certain that your spouse doesn't know latex, or almost not. If you are amongst the few lucky ones that have a spouse very open minded to new ideas, this text will not be of very good use to you. But for those whose wife/girlfriend remains reserved, shy, or withdrawn. here's the first thing to do: the approach.

To me, there are two major ways you can go by to put your spouse in first contact with latex. One is more direct then the other. I'll start with the more subtle way.

A) The first one is to show a photo of a woman in latex.
Caution! There are a few traps to avoid.

1- Do not choose a photo that shows off a model more beautiful then your wife/girlfriend. We are, in general, uncertain by nature. We like to feel that we are the most beautiful for our man and, seeing a picture of a beautiful girl, we'll instantly look at the girl's beauty and not her clothes. It's obvious. Imagine for a second that your wife shows you a picture of a male sex symbol... would you first compare your looks or the clothing? Instinctively, woman will compare herself with others. If she feels threatened, she will try to push aside what scares her. Too much of a beautiful model on picture will have the effect of pushing your spouse away from latex. Simply select a picture with a girl who is more "normal" in today's standards, and who is not directly related to your personal taste in women. For example, if you don't really like blondes, find a picture of a blonde. Don't forget: your wife knows about your personal tastes in women! And if she feels you chose the picture for the woman and not the piece of clothing. then there will be no possible progress from there.

2- Select a picture with no nudity or degrading postures. Choose a high-class picture. Choose a picture that displays an elegant dress or any other type of clothing that you are certain your wife/girlfriend will like. Personally, I suggest models in gowns. DO NOT select pictures with gas masks or bondage, even if it's soft s&m (unless of course it is a practice you both enjoy already).

3- Ask her what she thinks of the picture. Do not rush her. Listen to her, even if what she says deceives you a little bit. Tell her you were surfing on a fashion web site or something similar and classy. Don't tell her at this point that you were on fetish web sites. I assume she has never known of your interest in latex at this point. If she was to learn it all in a big rush, she might feel surpassed by it all, or hurried to like something only to please you. I am certain that none of you want their wife/girlfriend to do something she wouldn't want to do.

4- If she likes the picture, you can then engage the discussion more seriously, by giving more information about your point of view. Don't go to the extreme and say that you're totally in love with latex. Be patient and give her some time to appreciate this new material before going too deep in the topic.

If she doesn't like the picture at all, don't say anything. If she asks what you think of it, tell her how interesting you think the gown looks in its simplicity and its design. Tell her you've found this gown to be very original and elegant, that you haven't seen them before. Tell her finally that you thought she'd look very beautiful in that kind of dress.

If she's not sure, tell her the same as above, but remember to do it calmly without showing your deep deception. A light deception is fine. She will know this way that you are deceived, but she will not feel that you are rushing her into anything.

If you and your spouse feel comfortable going to a sex shop together, this might be for you. (For those of you who don't have a sex shop nearby. my sincere condolences! ;) )

First of all, it must not seem like you have back thoughts. You must enter the sex shop without asking salespersons where latex clothing is and without telling your wife that you want to show her something. Look around the store. Drop by the lingerie, as well as pvc and leather. PAY ATTENTION to every section. Comment each category of clothing not by talking first, but by letting your wife speak first. Listen to what she thinks and says. You will probably discover other tastes of hers. If you visit the store this way, commenting every section, first listening to her and then arguementing when she's done, and all of this calmly; when you'll get to latex clothing, the method will seem normal to your wife since you will already have done so for the rest of the store.

Notice her physical language. Sometimes, a woman says that she doesn't like something, but her facial expression says otherwise. She sometimes acts so in order to convinve herself or because she doesn't think it is adequate. The opposite CAN also be true. She could tell you that she loves everything in the store, but it's up to you, because you know her, to find out if she really thinks what she is saying. Shyness can sometimes influence our tastes. Or, if she has never seen pvc or latex, the shock might first get her to love the material or scare her. Every woman has her character. Some say that they think truthfully. Some prefer to let themselves be guessed. Some don't have an opinion. It's the same way with men. You all have your ways to react. But it is true that about sex, in general always, men are more open-minded.

Basically, listen to what she has to say about latex. If she likes... look together into whether or not a buy might be possible. Do not rush her to buy right away something she could regret later at home. Let things mature. If she likes it or seems hesitant, go back home and tells her that if she wants to, you could together try to search the topic on the Internet. If she accepts, search using search engines. Don't think about using your bookmarks. Do not let her know that you already know these sites. Give her some time to navigate at her own rhythm.

These are two approaches which seem reasonable to me. In my opinion, the approach to avoid is to buy a latex gift for her. It is important for her to speak her mind about the situation. Also, she might think that the gift you would bought is not acceptable for her. Also, do not forget that it would be, in fact, a gift to yourself and not to her.

THE SECRET

There is no miracle recipe to interest someone to latex. But, in my opinion, the secret is respect and listening. Do not hurry things. Do not make her feel guilty if she doesn't like latex, because she could, seeing that you're understanding, end up opening and changing her mind. Do not shock her with harsh pictures and do not talk too quickly about your love for latex. Use a subtle attitude. Do not let it seem like everything was planned.

And, love her the way she is. Without wanting to change her.

PERSONALLY

Many tell me that it seems unbelievable that I am so open-minded. If you haven't read my about me section, know that the first time that I saw latex, I did not feel any happiness or harm, but shyness and uncertainty. I had the feeling that this material was much more daring than leather or pvc. Actually, I wasn't wrong. Latex is a lot less known by people. It raises up curiosity, but can also provoke discomfort and prejudices. I don't like to have fears against something, nor prejudices. Especially if it concerns my sexuality. So I went back to the store and bought this dress which you can see in my gallery (camping, the picture). I know that I did it in hope to surprise Martin, who had just, also, discovered latex. But oppositely to the ones who do things for their man in displeasure, I did it with excitation and love. With time, I learned to love latex. I wear it for myself. So don't go email me asking if I do it for Martin, the answer is no.

However, I can tell you that the first time I saw latex with Martin, I was a bit uncomfortable to see Martin admiring the material (he had never really seen it before). I refused to try it on. Martin was deceived. Just a little bit too deceived, which kind of put me under pressure, even though he didn't want to put any. But that's the way it is! Nevertheless, he wasn't upset about it. He understood that I didn't want to. And in front of so much kindness, I came back on my decision a few days later.

The real trick is to not hurry things. Let the other think. Talk to her a week later, about what you saw at the store or on the net. Just to have some feedback. If nothing has changed....... Well....... It's your wife or latex...... or latex in secret.

Bianca